Need some advice- so very worried

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  • Hi Lucy,

    I have seen all your posts and can feel your anxiety, and fear. You have been given excellent advice by some good people who know what they are talking about.

    i am worried that your anxiety is going to damage your baby.  
    My grandmother died of cancer relatively young and my childhood was affected by that for years.  As my mother got older, and closer to the age that her mother died she became so stressed and anxious that she made our lives hell, from worrying about her, to hiding from her until she calmed down. She had dreadful backaches and headaches and a terrible temper.
    As soon as she passed the age of her mother's death she relaxed and became a different person.  She lived a further thirty years, happily, I'm glad to say and she apologised to us for having been so self absorbed that she ruined our childhood.

    Don't do that to your child. As you have already been told, even if there was anything untoward, it is being investigated at a very early stage and the prognosis is likely to be excellent.  However, as you have already been told there is no sign of whatever terrifies you, it is unlikely that there is anything wrong.

    I wish you would do something positive about your anxieties, see your GP and get some treatment/therapy for that. It is important that you don't transmit your feelings to that beautiful baby of yours. Growing up with an anxious mother is hard, believe me!