My younger brother (25) has just told us he has cancer. Currently in the testing phase, he has two lumps under each nipple and one on his lower right back. He is a very positive young man, but also very loconic. We're still not sure (and really dont want to ask) how long he has known about the growths, when he was diagnosed nor do we dare to ask about his prognosis. I know that sounds daft, but all of us have trouble even looking eachother in the eye during this sort of talk. It's just so horrible. I'm so massively concered, but too much of a wreck to talk to anyone about it in person.
My questions are perhaps too general to be answered consicely, but i will fire them off anyways.
1) Does it mean anything when lumps are found closer to the skin surface rather than inside organs? I understand it has possibly spread (and his hesitation to explain how long he has known suggests it may have), but surely if the only growths he is aware of appear to be easily operable, this is somewhat of a good sign?
2) Let's say for argument sake that he has ignored these growths for some time. Possibly 5-10 years or so. Is it almost guaranteed that he has essentially killed himself? Yes, I can't belive I am typing that but it's the main thing running through my mind. He is a very shy boy, and I recall a time in his late teens where he became particularly withdrawn. The possibility of his private discovery and subsequent social withdrawl makes too much sense for me to ignore. I'm slowly becoming convinced he has known for several years but was too scared to act in time. If this is the case, is it possible to give a rough estimate of how long cancer takes to spread and become terminal?
I'm sure it's difficult to answer either of these questions without information on the cancer types, information which I do not have. I will edit this post if any more details are given. Thank you for reading.