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my sons battle against bowel/secondary liver cancer is lost

23 Jan 2017 21:21

Can only just bring myself to update you on Jonathans fight against bowel cancer and metastes to his whole liver.  He was told just before Christmas that the chemo had damaged his liver to the extent that it could no longer process bile,  This meant that he had to have a totally fat free diet, no easy thing.  He knew that was not sustainable as it causes problems of its own and as he became more jaundiced that in itself brings more problems. He was on steroids and was determined to do so much before he was unable to, he spent hours with his tractor getting it up to spec, sorted out his financial affairs, made arrangement for his funeral, he had a maasive collection of tools, machines etc which he sold, and tried to do as much to lessen the burden on his wife.  We had a party for him a week ago on Sunday all his friends came and a good time was had by all.  We could see he was tiring and the yellow was quite bright. He didnt get up on Wednesday , my husband, both his sisters and I spent the day and evening at his house with him and Faye (his wife).  He was able to talk a little but squeezed our hands.  I stayed till late that night.   We all returned on Thursday and he could still squeeze our hands later in the afternoon we knew that  his time with us was coming to an end and he slipped away peacefully with Faye and I holding his hands and his daddy and sisters with him.  He had been so terrified of being in pain, in hospital and being alone and none of that happened.  I am still numb and cannot believe I shall never see him again, empty chair at the table. He fought so hard since he was diagnosed eight and a half months ago and this wicked disease could not be beaten.  I take joy in the stories that I read on this forum of the people who have beaten the Big C and such sadness in those stories of loss and heartbreak that I now join.  We all see our children as a gift and so precious to us, as a parent you never expect to outlive your child and this is such a hard thing to face, My husband and daughters are so heartbroken and we have to face the funeral on Friday and do what he did fill every minute not to waste precious time, as none of us know how much time we have.   Sons and mums special special bond, nothing will ever be the same again.

leslie

my sons battle against bowel/secondary liver cancer is lost

24 Jan 2017 19:45

thank youxx leslie

my sons battle against bowel/secondary liver cancer is lost

24 Jan 2017 19:54 in response to sadmum

Thank you.  I too have read your story and you have suffered greatly.  To lose both your husband and your son is so cruel.  I dont think the awful reality has truly sunk in yet.  Reading peoples stories on this forum makes you realise that you are not the only one that is having the worst of times, but there are happy stories as well and that lifts your heart for those people.  Take care love lesliexx

my sons battle against bowel/secondary liver cancer is lost

24 Jan 2017 20:19 in response to sadmum

So sorry for your loss. Take care. X

my sons battle against bowel/secondary liver cancer is lost

24 Jan 2017 20:49 in response to sadmum

Dear Leslie

i can't begin to understand the pain you are in at this moment, Your son sounds like he was an amazing man, I'm so sorry for your loss.  Will be thinking of you and sending prayers for Friday x Kate x

 

my sons battle against bowel/secondary liver cancer is lost

27 Jan 2017 10:06 in response to sadmum

Leslie,

I am so sorry to read the news about your son.
Life seems so cruel and unfair at times.

Best wishes to you and your family.
Dave x

my sons battle against bowel/secondary liver cancer is lost

27 Jan 2017 21:49 in response to sadmum

Hi

Just wanted you to know, you and your family have been in  my thoughts today.  I hope you manage to find some comfort in the fact your on line friends are here.

 

kate x