Hi,

So pleased to hear this forum helped. Glad yoy are on a phased teurn to work, far better than all at once.

You will no doubt find that at times you will see or hear things that bring memories of your mother flooding back. I say this not to worry yoy but just so that you are made aware this happens. It's been several years since I lost my mother but I still get caught out from time to time. Luckily my wife is very intuitive  and understanding.

Do take care and please keep incontact so we know how your progressing,Brian.

Hi Brian, 

Thank you for your message. I understand what you mean about the memories flooding back, I felt this yesterday & I have been feeling down in myself. I'm looking forward to finishing work tomorrow & having some me time. 

Take care and thank you for your reply. 

I will keep in touch & hope that you are well. Nav.

Hi

Have just caught up with your thread and have to agree that returning to work brings with it some kind of normality.  I lost my husband just over 2 months ago and had a month off as compassionate leave (I only work part time) at the insistance of the GP. I do not have a particularly stressful job but still find that sometimes its not so easy. The grieving process is different for us all and taking things day to day seems the best way forward.  Like you my biggest hurdle is the guilt I feel when  am out being social with friends and family and am sure they feel the same!  Despite being told over and over that there is no reason to feel this wayn I think it is a natural part of the process and that accepting it will just take time.  The forum has been 'my companion' for a great part of my journey and I am not sure where I would have been without the support - sometimes you just want to shield your loved ones from the emotion of it all and its great to have an understanding virtual friendship the forum offers.  Look after yourself.Jules54

Hi Navitha,

Thanks for the update. One of the other things we all feel from time to time is a feeling of guilt when we enjoy ourselves. This is a natural part of greieving but I know for a fact it's something our grandmothers wouldnt want us to feel. In fact my niether my grandmother or mother would most certainly not approve. I have found as time goes by, I remember the good times more and more.

Take care, thinking of you and all who have lost their mothers this special Sunday, Brian