Hi Izzy

So sorry to hear of the passing of your mum. I lost my mum to lung cancer which had spread to her brain and she also suffered seizures. She was only 59 at the time but I was much older than yourself at the time. I'm so sorry to hear that you are struggling and that it is affecting you. I am so glad you have reached out and talked about your situation. People do listen, whether they be family, friends or complete strangers. You are not alone and lots of people struggle with losing a parent regardless of their age and this is very understandable. Have you spoken to your close family about how you feel? Sometimes we need to process these things alone but sometimes talking helps. It really is an individual process and we're all different. I do wonder that if it is having an affect, whether you may consider speaking to your GP. They may have some excellent advice on where you could access further support or be able to help you themselves. I'm sure there are many others who are just like yourself on this forum, and will stop by and offer you any advice or experiences they may have.

My very best wishes to you. I'm always happy to listen if you need xxxx

Hello Izzye,

My heart goes out to you, I also lost my mother to lung and liver cancer she was only 63, 

Is there a teacher you are close to who you could ask for advice, or perhaps the school has a counsellor 

these are just some ideas for you, 

I am sending you warm wishes and a hug

gol bless you

I will chat anytime if you wish

Lin66 xx

Hi Izzye,

I am so sorry to hear that you have lost your mum at such a young age. You sound like a very sensible young lady, but no matter what age you are, losing your mum is always heartbreaking.

I lost my mum and dad and several relatives and friends to cancer and know just how difficult it was to cope with my mum. She initially had breast cancer for 12 years, following a mammogram. We then discovered that the cancer had spread to her liver, lungs, brain and bone. Eight years ago I had my first bout of breast cancer and I had a second bout the following year. I now know the fears associated with this from personal experience.

Do you have anybody in your family who you can talk to openly about how you feel? There are several charities which supply counsellors who could talk to you and help you through your grief. Make an appointment with your GP and see what s/he says. I hope that you can find someone who can help you.

There is also a site for teenagers whose parents have been touched by cancer. It is called riprap and you may find it helpful to talk to others of your age, who know first-hand what you have gone through.

Do please stay in touch and let us know how you get on. We are always here for you too.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx