My Mum has stage 4 mestasised cancer that has spread from her kidneys to her hip, spine and lungs.
I have moved back from overseas to care for her full time. We have had to move into our own place as her ex partner was of little help. When I arrived back she was dehydrated and had lost a lot of weight.
I have slowly built her up a little and the atmosphere is better since the move. However I do not receive any family help. I am doing this on my own, but have regular lifts to her chemotherapy treatment.
Providing all all the emotional, mental and physical help is around 12-15 hours per day. It has been like this for 3 months. I am exhausted and I can feel my depression returning and I am withdrawing from friends either through guilt of leaving her in pain, or because I feel I cannot rely on them. They all have their own lives to live and after being away the strength in some of the relationships has faded.
The only reason I have fought through the depression before was because of her. I have attempted suicide previously, but promised myself that I would turn around my life around so that I could one day rescue her from her depressing life. I am losing the only goal I care about.
When she finally leaves I am scared that I will no longer be able to cope. I find it hard enough now pretending to be funny, happy and strong for everyone. This includes my partner overseas, which is not on solid ground either.
I will stay for the fight and any remission (minimal chance, but we are fighting), but after that I cannot see any reason to be around either. I just don't see the point in it.
Does anyone else feel the same way? I know I have the fight in me to get through Mum's cancer, but after that I honestly have no idea on what to do.
Any similar stories or any suggestions would be a huge help.
Thanks