My mum has terminal pancreatic cancer

My mum was finally diagnosed in October 2018 after a 8 months of visiting the GP. At first they said it was irritable bowel syndrome, then said it was depression.It had spread to her liver and lungs. A stent was fitted which stopped the jaundice, she has had 5/6 heavy chemo sessions, but hasn’t been able to complete the 6th as the body can’t take anymore, she is due a scan in the next week to see if the chemo has achieved anything. I cannot bare to see mum suffer anymore than she has already, I don’t know what I am going to do without her but for now I am staying strong and smiling for her.

  • Hi there Antony. .

    So so sorry your mum's going through this, and yes you too ... esp after being fobbed off for so long .. and yes this is gonna be one of the hardest things life throws at us ... 

    But as someone on my own journey ... how I look at things is ... make the most of every day ... live in the day .. don't look ahead coz then it's overwhelming .... and you know it's not good to always be brave ... this journey is about sharing ... tears / hugs and saying everything in your hearts ... men try so hard coz they've always been taught not to show emotion or cry ...

    But cancer changes all that .. time is so precious... it's o.k to both admit your scared .. and in sharing feelings, and really listening to each other .. you'll walk that path with your mum .. l know that's what we've learned in my family .. gentle honesty all round .. you may still have time to make more memories with her .. is there something she still wants to do .. or maybe just sitting and looking through albums and she can tell you about her life .. her childhood ... meeting your dad .. the first time she looked at you ..  

    You will never loose your mum, she's half of you ... so you'll carry her with you for your journey through life ... we live in our children. . So hold on in there ... and don't be afraid to show that emotion ... us mum's can still put an arm round our babies no mater how old ...

    Chrissie x