I'm 16, my mum was diagnosed in mid september. It's a very aggressive bowel cancer, and has spread badly to the liver and a bit to the lung + although my nan, who's caring for me right now, won't tell me outright, I know that it's only treatable and not curable, which means it's terminal. My dad left when I was 3 so I've been raised only by my mum and she's literally my world. Now I don't know if she'll make it to Christmas. My grandad died of cancer before covid so all of this is already traumatic. It just feels like the world is caving in right now - plus I'm currently ill myself with a bad cold so I can't go anywhere near my mum because it's contagious. She's 52, she's too young and she's probably going to die before the end of the school year. I'd only just recovered mostly from my major depression and anxiety that have plagued me over the past three years, i was so ready for a new start, and it's just being taken from me like this. And my mum doesn't deserve any of this, not that anyone does, but especially not the woman who worked a *** job for so many years to look after me, was emotionally manipulated in marriage, who moved to a new town as I got older so that she could get a better job and create a proper social circle, and for that hope to be completely and utterly shattered with a bloody terminal diagnosis in her early fifties. she's caring, creative, funny, and the kindest person in my life. she won't get to see me get a job. she won't get to see me have kids - she won't get to be a grandparent. she won't get to go to Italy and look at all of the art like she's always wanted to. she won't watch me get married. how on earth am I meant to cope with this. I can't go near her without crying. and my poor nan is going to have to watch her youngest daughter die before she does. I just don't know how to function. My room is getting really messy and I just can't bring myself to do anything to make it clean, and on top of coping now, I don't see how I'll ever recover from this. In many ways I wish she'd been hit by a car so that she didn't have to live with deteriorating and pain and losing the energy to be herself. I'm just at a total loss of what to do right now - what can I do to make things easier? How do I cope?