My mum died 18 days ago,age 64, and things are very raw. She was fit and well until last month and was diagnosed with cancer on the 1st September 2017 and died 9 days later on the day she was due to go on holiday. I'm not sure how I'm going to cope. Unfortunately we lost our dad eleven years ago when he was 55. I haven't got my head around the diagnosis nevermind the fact she has gone. There's so many times over the last few weeks where I have gone to call her, the latest being this morning. Life is just so unfair at times.
Mum was diagnosed in May died 15th September, stage 4 breast cancer,
life was all so good for our family, mum was 11 years in remission, we were naive to think cancer has gone forever, I feel we neglected our mum, surely we could have got her checked out in Jan, maybe whilst it was a small mass, I will forever blame myself.
one minute mum was at home, all her kids sitting on the couch with tea and biscuits surrounding our rock, laughing and joking about anything, just being normal enjoy life, she was the light of our family and now the house is like a deserted building!! We have lost our precious mum and I dont know how I will go on with life without my beautiful, loving, caring , soft mum who only ever lived for her family, she battled it for 5 months in so much pain for her kids but in the end she was taken.
How I am going to cope growing old without my rock I will never know. My kids yet to go big school, college, uni and then work, all this i wanted mum to see, I wanted to see mums face when her grandsons have taken those next steps in life! Now I can only imagine what mum would have said, yes I know she would be proud but I wanted her to physically see it all.
life will never be the same! Xmas coming soon, was the best time of the year for our family, that fun has now been snatched away.
I lost my mom at 14 and its been three years. It gets a little easier but recently for me it feels like i lost her again. I've never had a grown up one to one conversation with her. She never saw me grow up and when i make accomplishments, i miss her even more. I can't bare to grow up anymore without her, leaving the world tonight. Glad to see others with similar pain
I'm really sorry to hear that you lost your mom to cancer three years ago, and how difficult you are finding things at the moment.
Do you have a friend or family member you can talk to about how you’re feeling right now?
The Samaritans are also just a phone call away. They are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week on 116 123, so whenever you need a listening ear, someone will always be available to support you.
Many of our members here will know what you are going through, having been in this position themselves with their parents and loved ones, and I'm sure some of them will be along soon to offer their support and share their experiences with you.
We’re here to listen to you, Pawar, so do keep talking.
With best wishes,
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Hi my mum died 6 weeks ago , it was very suddenly . I feel very jealous with my husband who has his mum , I keep going to call her but then remember I haven’t got her . I can’t go to the cemetery as I feel it’s not right she’s there. Sam
It still doesn't get much easier, some days are better than others. It's nearly 2 years now and I miss her like anything, she's a like a dream that was in my life. I still wake up in the night thing out for her. Feel so alone in this world without her
Thanks for your message. How are you now? It's an awful situation. Life just feels empty and can' make no head nor tail of it. Everything always felt better with mum around