My mother is dying and I feel it came out of nowhere

I am 32 f and I found out my mother is dying yesterday. I am in shock and disbelief. She has had cancer since 2020 but it always seemed treatable and the consultant had stated the possibility of years left last year. 

I am abs devastated and I just feel lost. My mother is my only parent and is the matriarch of the family. She is the one I talk to every day. I have no partner or kids so I don't feel I have to put on a brave face. 

I cannot stop crying and I just can't see how this will get better. Can anyone advise on books or anything that makes you feel better please. 

  • Welcome to Cancer Chat Memmer32 although I'm so sorry to hear about your mother.

    I know nothing I can say can make this any better but I hope you can take some strength, and comfort, from knowing that our community are here for you and I'm sure some of our members who have been in this position with their loved ones will be along soon to offer their support and advice.

    If you'd like to speak to one of our cancer nurses, you can do so on 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m. They're very understanding and will do all they can to support you as well.

    In the meantime, be kind to yourself Memmer and try to take things one day at a time. Much easier said than done I know, but I hope some of these resources will be able to help you at this very difficult time.

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator