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My husband has testicular and I'm pregnant

Nadia786
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hi

i don't really know what to say as never done anything like this before. My husband was diagnosed with testicular cancer on 5th December and had his left testicle removed on 14th December we got the all clear in January that cancer hadn't spread but that he would be regularly checked etc

he had another check up on 1st march where we were told that his lymph nodes now bigger then normal so Needa another scan to double check this

the thing is I'm pregnant which we both are so happy about but I have no support at all from anyone and I don't want to talk to my husband about it as it's him going through this not me and I don't want to give him extra stress etc

im doing all the calling docs to sort appointments out etc and trying to keep everyone positive when deep down I'm so scared myself that I may loose him 

and just wanted to write on here I don't even know why to see if there's anyone else going through same thing 

my my own family don't care and they haven't even

asked if I need help with anything etc so I don't want to talk to anyone about it etc

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    Hi Nadia

    I'm not a doctor.

    After the surgery, the testicle would have been sent to the path lab for intense scrutiny. If he got the all clear then the pathologist didn't find any reason to think that the cancer had spread.

    Lymph nodes can swell for a number of reasons, but mainly due to infections. Obviously, the doctors will be hyper-vigilant but at this stage there's no need to panic. This may simply be a bug. 

    If your husband hadn't had this illness then I'm sure you would be discussing issues around your pregnancy with him. Well, I think you should still do that. This will be as much his child as yours, and maybe helping you will take his mind off his own problems. Besides which, you need his support as much as he needs yours. Marriage should be a partnership of equals, where each supports the other. 

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    Hi telemando thanks so much for your response Here's the thing he had the op Dec 14th then had a ct scan in Jan on 18th jan we were told by specialist that stage one cancer ct scan is fine so is bloods and will be reviewed every 2-3 months etc So we went back for next check up march 1st same specialist said I know we said that u were fine and not spread but after checked he scan results ur lymph nodes are larger then normal and he been referred for another ct scan which we will have on Monday and see him on Wednesday for results he has also been referred for MRI but we haven't had this yet The thing is we have Macmillan nurses for two out of the three hospitals we have visited but Brighton hospital we have no Macmillan nurse and so I have to call and make these appointments as the appointments never come through it's just getting so much But when I see specialist next Wednesday will tell him we haven't got MRI thorough and been nearly a month and surely I know they busy but this is how stages get to different stages cos they not moving quick enough x

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