Hello Margtom, like Martin my husband died 24th January this year, at home and he also was bed bound, but you should have a paliative care team from your surgery and the district nurses on call 24/7, truly without them I'd have fallen apart.  Don't struggle on your own it makes you ill, tired and stressed.  Ask for help as it is available.  Martin and I know what you are suffering and are here if you need us.  Love Carol x 

Martin, beautifully put.  Carol x

Thank you for your kind words this is all new to us it has only been a few months on this awful treadmill of cancer .

We have a palliative care team who are very supportive. 

It seems that he now has a uti to contend with bless him .

I am tired and depressed but its just one day at a time that is how I am taking it .

Been feeling so low seeing my lovely man become so emaciated. 

He is unable to eat but I am keeping him hydrated with fluids. 

I may try the ice lolly someone suggested  

Thank you I am sorry you have gone through this too x

Thanks Marg.  It is very hard and tiring and depressing and I know how you are feeling.  We are here for you and I now have four long days ahead to get through on my own, so will have time for you.  Carol xx