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My husband has terminal bowel cancer with liver metastasis

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Hi we have just been told my husband is terminal, after doing lots of research we have been told they will not work. I am 46yrs old and he is 54yrs old. I am absolutely devastated and can't stop uncontrollably crying when I am not at work, I don't want to be like this for him, and want to make the best of the time we have what ever that may be. Is there anybody that is the same is this normal? 

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    Im so sorry to hear your news. I am in a similar situation but with my Dad. It really is devastating like you're living a nightmare.Having to watch someone you love deteriorate before your eyes. Have they given you a timeframe or have you chosen not to know? Do you have a good support network around you? Mcmillan can support both you and your husband. We have found them helpful as they keep check on my Dad at home by telephone & face to face. How has your husband taken the news? Is he open to talking about it?

     

    Sending you so much love & strength 

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    Hi Thank you for answering, and sorry about your dad. My husband is on chemo for as long as his body can take it and he stays well. I do have lots of people to talk to but I still feel the same! My husband has taken it better than me and will talk about it, but I don’t want to keep crying on him. Just can’t stand the thought of being here without him.
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    If you let the tears flow, eventually you will find some calmness and strength to support your husband. But if you fight against the tears, you will be using up a lot of your energy for that fight.

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