Hello leah.  This must be worrying for your friend and she will appreciate your being a friend to her.  If you usually ask her round then continue to do so.   I don't know how friendly the two of y ou are but it would not be a bad idea to give her a ring ask her how she is and how her mum is doing and would she like to come round, meet for a coffee, or whatever.  Take her lead from there.  People sometimes say here that they do not know what to say so they don't make contact; it is great that you are going to get in touch and offer support.    If there are things that you could help her to do then offer to do them.  Even just little things; if you know her mum and the rest of her family then you could watch out for things that would be useful - don't push yourselves on them but if you see the garden needs doing (for instance) then you could do a bit of weeding or mowing (if they have a garden).  Just tell your friend that you are happy to be asked to do anything and mean it. 

I don't know what specific back cancers there are; various cancers could appear in some places close to the back; maybe when you speak with your friend she will be more specific.  Or maybe others on this forum are more knowledgeable than myself!  Best wishes.  Annie

hey annie,

thanks so much for replying! i’d say we’re pretty close but because our school has a large catchment area she lives half an hour away, so seeing her isn’t the easiest. ill still try my best to help her feel better when i’m with her. thanks again :)

No problem.  Just make sure she knows you are willing to talk with her and listen to how she is feeling.  And just help in any suitable way.  Annie