Hi 

My friend has just been diagnosed with lung cancer about 5 weeks ago.

The consultant has told them they can operate on the tumour so they have decided to go ahead but all the tests and scans are freaking themout already that whenever they get called up for another scan or test they go to sit in the pub and drink into a state. 

They have also just been informed they have ‘activity in the colon’ which has freaked them out more and first thing they did was go to the pub and get drunk. They have to go for a lung biopsy which they said no to but they has to have it if they want the op apparently. And also a colonoscopy in a couple of days too. Things are moving pretty fast and all this new information freaks them out more.

I know the drinking thing is their own way of coping, but they could get their op in a couple of weeks and trying to explain they need to be fit and healthy for the op so the recovery progress be easier just goes in one ear and out the other. Im trying to be there when needed but it’s so hard. I don’t know what to do to help them handle things better. 

I don’t want to sound pushy and like I’m getting at three but its harder to find the right words. Please help