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My friend has cancer and I can’t cope

Donna341
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hi 

my friend was diagnosed with osteosarcoma towards the end of last year and is no longer receiving treatment so we know what the time scales left are. From the moment she told me I’ve continued our relationship as normal being the same jokey people we were and always will be with eachother. 

Ive been finding it hard recently and I feel so selfish for being this sad and down. It’s not me going through this but I’m so helpless to the situation and I can’t do anything. 

None of my family have been through this before as no one has died to or had cancer and I feel that I don’t know what to do. 

Im there for her 100% any minute I just feel that I’m ready to breakdown myself. I’ve tried to be the strong one for everyone but I feel that I can’t cope anymore. 

I was wondering if anyone had any advice 

thanks x

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    Hi Donna Speak to your friend it may be she needs someone to have a good cry with. Tell her your there for her but how difficult a time this is for her and everyone around her. If you don't think she can take this then talk to someone yourself about how you are feeling this will give you the strength to be strong for her.
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    Hi there Donna... bless ya , I've been on both sides and for me it's far harder watching someone you care about go through this ... you need to let those feelings out, otherwise they will become overwhelming ... cancer effects everyone, who cares about that person ...

    She maybe being strong for you too ... it's no bad thing to admit your both scared ... she may need someone to open up to, at some point ... you don't have to do nothing special or have lots of words ... someone to hold you hand on this journey we find our self on is more comfort then you know ... and once you open up, it's o.k to cry, hug, and smile along the way ... 

    You sound an amazing friend ... and remember your braver then you realise ... and all those emotions are normal ... it's all part of loving someone .... so be kind to your heart and reach out to anyone you can talk too ... and there's always someone on here to offer you a shoulder when you need it ... and these amazing people on here, know what emotions this cruel disease brings ... big hug Chrissie

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    Thank you so much. It is a horrendous disease I never thought I would have to do this ever never mind when she’s so young. We’re both 21 and it just makes it so much harder for me to deal with. 

     

    Youre so kind and and I appreciate your words so much 

    thank you xxx

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