My dear grandmother

My dearest grandmother is struggling with stage 4 gallbladder cancer . She is 76 yrs old .We love her so much , but we are helpless . Now she is behaving completely differently. She only want to sleep , don’t want to eat .From few days , she is making sound which shows her pain . She is also suffering with jaundice . The doctor tried to put stent so that her bilirubin can get rid of but he cannot make it due to her age and cancer . Now her jaundice is increasing . She ask for little water  only . I have grownup with her . She  used to help me a lot . When I think about her just tear breaks down . Want to help her but cannot . I am feeling helpless, just can send her loving wishes. The days with her just come in front. 

  • Dear Dhulikhel.  I am so sorry for you and your family having to watch your grandmother go through this.  Have you got any nurses coming in to help with her care; I think you should ask them how your grandmoher is doing.  Bearing in mind that I have no medical training of any kind I think it may be that your grandmother's body is beginning to close down.   If she is obviously in pain you should speak to her doctor urgently about getting some pain relief.  Or if you are speaking to the nurses they could perhaps contact the doctor for you but I would try to get pain relief organised as quickly as possible. It is heartbreaking to watch a loved relative in this situation.  But while you cannot do anything about the cancer you should, with the help of the doctor and nurses, at least be able to maker her comfortable. 

    Talk to your grandmother; tell her how much she means to you; how much you love her.  She may not reply but she can probably hear you.  She will know that you love her and that you are there with her.  Annie