Hi Lindsey,

I am so sorry to read about your dad. At the tail end of last year, I lost my father who lived in Canada and my brother in law who lived in this country (England) I would just like to say the time they have estmated for your dad is only an estimate and could go either way. Are they giving any treatment to your dad?

Both of my relatives got weaker and weaker until at the last they were confined to their beds and eventually ended up in hospices. With modern drugs, he should be pain free but it cant be garanteed.

I consider myself very lucky for I was diagnosed with prostate cancer over six years ago but because my wife made me go to the doctors mine was caught in time and I have made a good recovery luckily.

Take care and make as many happy memories as you can bearing in mind the situation. Sending kind thoughts and best wishes to you and your dad, Brian.

Hi there, I'm sorry to hear about your dad. Personally I'd pay no attention to the estimated time left, like Brian said it can go either way. I got told people with my dads cancer, 50% are alive in 8 months, that was bad enough!!! He died 3 days later...  What I learnt was that we are all dying, we don't know when, some sooner rather than later, do things that make you happy today, don't put things off. Life changes in the blink of an eye. Look after your dad and create lots of memories, take lots of photos and videos too. 

My dad is refusing treatment as he wants what ever time he has left to be filled with memories rather than memories of the hospital, he wants to make the best of any time he has left (which i can understand).

I just would like to make palns with him but i have no idea how much time i have left!

I just cant quite believe that he is going to die, i just wish i knew what to expect x

Thanks for your kind words Brian x

Thank you Michelle, my dad wants to finsh the camino walk around spain, (a trip he had to cut short last year) so i will be doing the last two weeks with him. i want to know my dad as a man rather than a father, and i believe this trip will be good for us both.

As you say i want to make as many lovely memories as possible which i can remember forever.

I am sorry for your loss and i thank you for your kind words x

I know 87year old who got proscate cancer he got fluid on stomick and leg lungs  he have problems go toilet been on laxitives and he start hear noise in head got rattle on lungs I look after him 38year it hard see him suffer 

Hi LindseyL,

I don't know what is going on in the world at the mo. But the world and his wife (or husband) seems to be getting a cancer diagnosis! Six people in our road alone in the last 8 month- my husband one of them, diagnosed last August with Oesophageal. Post treatment dare is say.....".......... for now.

This is the absolute worst part, the utter shock of diagnosis and the masses of info and appointments.

Someone said earlier that they don't really give you 'time'- they don't and won't there are a couple of people on here who have been palliative for years. My old Nana was 95 when she got her diagnosis- decided she didn't want treatment at all, popped off 3 days later in an opiate haze ( her choice). Someone I know was diagnosed with breast cancer 20 yrs ago, spread to her bones etc and is still here. So it really is an unknown.

I have to say I really 'admire' your Dads decision. 'Brave'guy. You must be beside yourself though.

Making memories is absolutely the thing to do, enjoying him and the time you spend together.

Best Wishes

Hilts