Esther11 I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your precious Dad. I am also sorry that your Mum is also battling cancer. You sound like you are a wonderfully caring daughter and I am sorry that you have to go through this. I hope that your husband is able to help you cope with this loss. 

Please accept my condolences xx

Hello from me too.  This sort of thing makes you doubt everything you thought you knew.  It is bad enough to have one parent with cancer but two at the same time!  As we get older we do know that there is no reasonable method in our lives but still live in hope that we won't be given more than our fair share of awfulness.  But time and again this forum shows that differently.  Don't push yourself too hard - you need to be able to grieve for your dad alongside your mum or you will do yourself a disservice and you won't be able to help your mum as much as you would like.    Please do keep in touch if it helps.  Annie

i also lost my dad on the 2nd December my mum relies on him for everything he battled with cancer since he got diagnosed in July although I believe he had it for some time 

he lay in bed for weeks wouldn’t eat always slept earjy hours sat I was called as they said he had 24 hours to live I got to my mum n dads at 3 by 4.15 he had gone :( I just can’t see my life without him he was the one person if I needed anything he would be there please tell me this gets better 

Xmas is going to be awful 

I fill your pain I also lost my dad to liver cancer 19th November  this year (2018) and seeing him suffer was so so hard to see he died at home where he wanted to 

but I still can’t get my head around his gone and acting normal but inside I’m lost and empty dreading Xmas but have 2 girls 13,7 and I’ve got to make there day as special as I can hope you be ok for Xmas .i was also my dads carer for two years a

d fill lost 

would be nice to hear your story amd maybe help me too 

I’m so sorry for your loss

I am so sorry your Mum is going through a tough time with this illness too. 

May your Father Rest In Peace

My Dad passed away on the 15th of November 2018 

We buried him 1 week & 5 days ago. Almost 2 weeks ago & im still thinking about the night before he passed It doesn’t get easier, we just learn to cope with the pain & find comfort in the fact they aren’t suffering any more. 

I was extremely close to my Dad too. 

Lost my best friend & my everything 

May our wonderful Dads RIP

Sending you all my love, prayers and strength xoxox 

Hi Esther, I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my mum in September, I understand a little of what you must be feeling now and to have your mum diagnosed as well is just heartbreaking. It's hard to find the words to make any difference at this moment in time. I have good and bad days, but I think in time it does get easier to comprehend and we're all different, whatever we feel and however we express it, is normal.

Somebody said the grief is the price we pay for love, it is a very hard price to pay.

I hope you have more special moments with your mum and I am sorry that she is also suffering from this horrible condition.

Take care

x

helpinganeighbour thank you for your response and condolences. I know that I now have to be strong for my Mum. My parents are my world. Thankfully I have an amazing husband and in-laws to help through this difficult time xx

Hello Annie,

Thank you so much for your advice. Every time I think that we’ve experienced the worst something else happens. It’s so difficult and just hope that my Mums health does not deteriorate like my Dads as it all happened so quickly, I think I would crumble if it happened to my Mum as well. Thank you . Esther

Claire I’m so sorry for your loss. I understand my Mum relied on my Dad for a lot as well. We always thought that my Mum was more ill but I think my Dad was just trying to be strong. I honestly don’t know if it gets better o can only hope it does. Right now everything feels like a blur. Christmas was my Mums favourite time of year I don’t know how we’re goibg to get through it. If you ever need to talk don’t hesitate to contact me 

cranberry14 I’m sorry about your Dad. That was the worst thing seeing the pain my Dad was in and knowing I should let him go but feeling selfish and wanting him to stay with us. My Dad was too weak to go home. I feel at the moment like it’s not real. I see everyone else getting on with their lives and I don’t understand how they can as I feel like mine has stopped. Like I’m stuck in a nightmare and I can’t get out. 

I hope you and your girls have a good Christmas I’m sure it will be hard but hopefully it will get easier. 

My husband and I care for both my parents, my Dad wanted a newspaper everyday it feels so strange not going to get it. There’s so many things that remind me of him. Just like you said I feel so lost too