Hi Rebecca... so sorry hunny your dad's had such sad news ...

All I can say, is after the shock goes a tad, coz everyone is probably in shock right now ... you all need to walk this journey together .. it's o.k to share tears, hugs, and listen to how you all feel ... so many pull in different directions when this happens ... you need to find a way to hold each other's hand ..

My mum died suddenly with a heart attack,  she was fine one Monday morning ... at 5.20 she'd gone before l could even hold her one more time, or tell her l was so proud she was my mum ... I'd give anything for just one more day,  even one hour ... 

You have what l didn't... you can take this time he has, and just crumble, or you can say, o.k he's here today ... and take every day your given as a chance to make memories ... grab it with both hands and do things that he likes, maybe there's somewhere he'd like to go ... and leave nothing unsaid .. he may need to talk about things that's hard to hear ... but he needs to say them .. 

It's gonna be one of the hardest things, you'll ever do ... but it will be worth it ... you make those days count, something l wish I'd have had that chance .. cancer wants you all to give up and waste every day grieving ... every time you do something nice, you'll all be sticking two fingers up to it ... 

I don't know how long l have on my cancer journey but im doing just what I told you ... I'm gonna live and laugh every day ... and at the end I'll stick my two fingers up to cancer too ... 

Sending you all a big hug ... Chrissie

Hi Rebecca, 

im 24 and I lost my dad to cancer recently . Im sorry to hear your news , As you say being the eldest the best thing you can do if be there for your younger siblings to support them  , speak with the doctors and ask questions , whatever it is , how silly you think the question is , just ask . Try and stay away from google - it’s not always helpful and the doctors will have all the facts and will help you to understand your dads diagnosis . Communication really is key  and always stay hopeful :) 

Helll Chrissie, first of all thankyou very much for replying back it really means a lot . I am so sorry the loss of your mother , I literally have no words , and I am also very sorry to hear about your cancer journey . Your kind words have made a real difference and I can’t thank you enough !! It’s nice to be able to speak to someone other than family and to someone who knows what I’m going through . I really do wish you all the best with everything and especially your journey ! Sending all my love and hugs  ️

Hello particular94 ,

thankyou very much for replying back to me , it really means a lot . I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your father . I just have no words to even express or to imagine how you feel and what you’re going through during this time .i just don’t know what to say. As you mentioned google , I’m going to try and stop researching things , it’s aomething I tend to do when I can’t get to sleep - which only makes the sleeping situation worse . But I just find it hard not to think about the whole situation . I don’t go to my fathers appointments , so I don’t really have anyone to ask questions to . This is why talking to you all on here really means a lot to me , and as to why I appreciate everything that you’ve said so thankyou :) 

Always here Rebecca. . Any time you need a shoulder or just to vent, I'm on here most days ... just let out what ever you feel hunny ... big hug ... Chrissie