Hello Neword123 what your going through sounds so hard... and the fact that it has all happened in a short period of time must have made it all the more difficult. You love your dad very much and I'm glad you are with him, although it sounds gut-wrenching to see your father change and to hear that he may not be with you for much longer. As you mentioned the sudden personality change and aggressive words/behaviours are not from your dad but a feature of his illness. Your dad is your dad and all the wonderful memories you have of him are evidence of your love for one another. That will never alter.

You will find the strength to be with him, and if you have a wobble that is normal and I hope there are others around you you can talk to or hug to gain some more strength and reassurance from. If not, please speak with your father's specialist nurse/Macmillan nurse to help you have the space to release and process your feelings. I wish you and your family all the best.

My dad was diagnosed 5 weeks ago with the same lung cancer and two brain mets, he passed away last week..4 weeks after diagnoses.  We are all devastaed, fortunatly my dad never lashed out, just suffered severe head pain, he too was fit and healthy before his diagnosis. It has destroyed me as a person. X

He may be seeing things if he is trying to punch you. Please ask your doctor there is medicine for this ️

Hi

Firstly, I am so sorry to hear what you are going through.  My Mom passed within 1 month of diagnosis, of a brain tumor mets from lung cancer.  She never even told us she felt ill, but must have been in pain ffor a long time.  She exhibited some of the same symptoms as your Dad except for the lashing out.  That's one of the reasons we spotted something was wrong; she had that vacant look, she started to speak to us differently, as if she was talking to a stranger at a bus stop - really polite etc, but it was as if she did not really know who we all were.

She was put on some magic steroids of some sort and really came around to her normal self, started eating well etc, but was still in a lot of pain.  Speak to his doctors, see if there is anything else they can give him to ease what he is going through.  God bless and I hope you are getting enough support from friends and familiy - its a struggle, I know x