there, I've said it. In one month we have gone from back ache to a brain tumour, bony mets, tumours on the adrenal gland and shoulder. We have limited time left and he is at home with my step mother nursing him. I am struggling to cope, thinking of why I didn't spend more time with him and why is this happening. He is bedridden and although I'm trying to be strong I just crumble when I see him. I just want to hear how others have got through this, I'm 38 and did not anticipate dealing with death of a parent so soon