Four weeks ago my dad was told his lung cancer has returned and it is not curable this time. To say we are shocked and devastated just doesn't cover it.
I am the eldest of 4 and as always I am the one who does all of the planning, most of the decision making and I am also tasked with helping everyone including our dad to get through this hideous ordeal.
I am busy trying to make sure that all potential issues are pre-empted and dealt with. My dad does not want to talk about what the near future will be like or how it can be prepared for in ways that dad is happy/comfortable with in accordance with his wishes.
I am struggling to cope and feel isolated from the rest of the family because it is I alone that is being left to have all of the difficult conversations with dad that he clearly does not want to have. This is adding stress and pressure on my own relationship with my dad that none of the others are having to experience. I feel like it is damaging our lifelong father/daughter bond. I am also the one having nag other family members into takeing some responsibility to ease the stress on my relationship.
