Hi lemondrizzle welcome to the forum the club nobody wants to join, hopefully [@Chriss]‍ , [@Sandra123]‍ or [@Marlyn]‍ will join you to talk soon, so sorry about your father, and of course you if you have a good look around you could find others similar to you, or others will join you to talk, best wishes.

Billy 

Hello love,

oh boy! Cancer doesn't give a hoot does it? I'm relieved you are all sorted now and never ever feel guilty for being in the clear yourself....x

i do understand the distance thing, we used to live in Spain, my mum got ill ( and later died) and I still feel awful for moving to another country when my mum was ageing.....

right now your dad needs to get on with his treatment, do you have good communication with your step mum? Is it feasible to go at weekends? If not then support them by phone, let them know your there for them to vent and offload....be guided by what they say....

there will be support here for you....there's always someone who just gets it xx