Hello Alison,

Welcome to the forum. I am sorry to hear about your poor Dad.  Having had gallbladder complications myself, this is something that I remember clearly, as the pain  wasn't that severe but it was persistant. I got to the stage that I couldn't stand the smell of coffee or of any fast food, I couldn't eat, I was vomiting and eventually, I couldn't breathe. I also couldn't sleep. When I went to the doctor I was immediately referred to hospital with a pustular pleurisy (empyaemia) and put on to intravenous antibiotics to try and reduce the infection before I could be taken to theatre.

I waited two weeks to have surgery, then, when I went to theatre, I stopped breathing under anaesthetic. This meant more antibiotics for another couple of weeks abefore another attempt. This time I was relieved of a three inch gallstone. I could not believe how quickly I deteriorated, so I am not surprised your poor Dad has too.

Has the consultant said whether or not they can give him any surgery or treatment? - I do hope that they can.

Please keep us updated on how he is getting on.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi Alison 

i am so sorry to read about your dad.

my mum has been diagnosed with this evil gall bladder cancer too. I can't even explain how I am feeling. Only thing I am doing days and nights is spending time on internet to find solution to the biggest problem of my life. The fact is that I have never felt so failed ever before. I can't digest the fact that she has cancer and what's going to happen next.

i am  trying  ketogenic diet for her and it has to work because I can't afford to loose her. 

I am 29 and along these years I never realised how much I love her but this realisation has come at a big cost which I am not going to pay 

keep posted us about your dad's health. 

I am so sorry to hear about your Dad. This is a very difficult disease, I know because a friend of mine had it. I have stomach cancer and my bile ducts were blocked, so I had jaundice and was treated brilliantly at Hammersmith Hospital, with drains and stents. I know I am very lucky because my disease is under control.  Every case is different and I am sure your dad is receiving appropriate care. Wishing you all the best.

Hi Alison , my names Alison , I've been caring for my dad for 4/5 years , he's been complaining of stomach pain like a dull ache plus depression etc , he was put on anti depressants, everyday saying he feels terrible but couldn't explain why , mental health team put him on olanzapine and other meds to keep him calm , he's had numerous tests , camera , X ray , ct , MRI , so last week dad turned yellow , called gp out . He wasn't that concerned, said I'll call a nurse out to do bloods again , so next day dad was more yellow , we ended up taking him to A& E , he's been admitted , had 2x CT scans , and MRI , had a meeting with Drs yesterday to be told I'm so sorry your dad has gall bladder cancer and there's nothing we can do , I am in shock and so devastated, my poor dad had been suffering fur 4/5 years and they missed it , how could this happen , I'm seriously looking into a complaint of negligence, poor man had had cameras stuck in him everywhere, I can't believe this is happening, but sending lots of love to you X ️

Hi Alison,

I am so sorry to hear about your dad and all the tests he has been through to no avail. It is hard to believe that nobody picked this up throughout the past 4/5 years and, I can understand why you are so angry.

We had similar problems earlier this year with my father-in-law. By the time we got him into hospital for assessment, we were told that he had cancer throughout his body and, that nothing could be done for him. He died 5 days later.

Please don't let a complaint be your over-ruling aim at present. There is time enough for that later. Instead, try to make the most of the time you have left with your dad.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Thankyou so much my darling , and I'm so sorry for your loss , we lost mum to in 2013 , because Drs didn't act quickly enough , so you can see why I'm so angry , it's happened again , losing Two parents like this , This has affected me so badly , it's like I'm in a dream and can't function properly, , X 

You can understand now , why I feel we should complain , I will never forgive myself for what has happened to dad X 

Hi Alison,

I can understand how upset and angry you are. We felt the same.

It might be a good idea to ask for a copy of your dad's medical records first. Not all cancers are easy to detect and they may have been having trouble in getting a proper diagnosis.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Thankyou , they have been looking for wrong type of cancer , bowel , they made big mistake X