My dad and how I cope

I'm new to this site and to be honest I'm lost and struggling. My dad has just been diagnosed with lung cancer, still waiting for biopsy results, consultants say it's spread and there's no cure. My dads suffering with breathing and coughing but I've managed to sort out meds to help with this. I'm feeling lost and I don't know what to do with myself !!! My dads gonna die , he's not gonna live till an old age , he's only 59. I lost my mum 5 years ago to lung disease. I can't think straight, my brain won't switch off and I don't know weather I can cope with work issues at the moment. Can anyone give me any advice or if they feel the same . Help !!!!

  • Hello and welcome, I'm really sorry to see your dads diagnosis.  I lost my dad 11 months ago to squamous cell carcinoma, non small cell lung cancer that had spread to liver, lymph nodes, adrenal glands... He was only 64. I felt all this things as well, I don't know how you get through the tough times. You just have to be there for your dad and fight his corner for him, it sounds like you already are with sorting out his medication. Do you have any siblings or family that can support you both? Is your dad home or in hospital? How is your dads health at the moment? 

  • Hi Leesona5, 

    I am so happy that you found this site because there are many supportive people on here. I am sad to know that you have had to go through some very tough times with the passing of your mom and the diagnosis of your dad. I can relate to some of what you're feeling. My dad is only 63 and he was just diagnosed with advanced prostate cancer, and my whole family was in complete shock. 

    I can't really say anything to make you feel better, as I know that no words are all that comforting at these difficult times in life. Somehow we all go through them. All I can say is try to cherish every single moment you have with your dad, cry when you have to, and try to live each day in the moment. When I think too far into the future, I get depressed. Nobody really knows what the future holds. Try to hold onto that. And remember that your dad knows how much you love him. Are there any family members or friends or counsellors you are able to talk to?

    Feel free to come and chat whenver you want to!