In mid August my dad was diagnosed with stage 4 incurable pancreatic cancer that has spread to his liver. This has come to us as a complete shock. My dad is 54, and ridiculously fit and healthy. Not in a million years did I think something like this would happen to him.
I am an only child and my parents have split up (albeit it they have started talking and become friends again since the diagnosis).
The first doctor he spoke to said he had about a year to live, since then another doctor has said they won’t know how long until they know how he has responded to chemo.
He’s currently in hospital as the chemo has messed with his intestines and they have found out that the chemo treatment he has been having since the start of September hasn’t worked and the cancer is slightly worse.
Obviously this has come as another shock as I had been expecting things to flat line for a bit. I’m really struggling with my emotions and feel like I’m going to cry at any given moment, time feels like it’s suddenly going really quickly which makes me feel like I’m running out of time to spend with him. I keep thinking about things that he’ll miss, like when I eventually have children etc and its breaking my heart.
Was wondering if anyone had been through something similar and had any advice?