My brother is dying

Hi everyone I'm new ... my brother was diagnosed stage 4 with a glioblastoma in July 18.he was 50 in the January as he was diagnosed in the July . he had surgery within 48hrs and then we was told her was terminal he had the chemo and radio but started fitting 5 days before Christmas resulting in him being ventilated he recovered from this and was doing well until 14 days ago when he started fitting whilst having a wee resulting in him falling backwards onto the bath which his wife struggled to help him .. he was took to A+E and he was re scanned it was then we was told the treatment hadn't worked infact it had fed the tumour and it was now massive in his head and all treatment was to now stop and palliative carr was to be offered.. hes home again now but has a bad chest infection and hes very swollen his head hands and feet hes also very cold and looks a bit yellow today .. he doesn't wana know how long he has but i looked into his eyes yesterday and I seen a look I've never seen before and I dont think he has long at all ... hes very angry aswell and keeps screaming at everyone his mobility is also not good atm 

Thanks for reading 

  • Hi there ...

    Oh bless, how sad ... it's really not fare ... cancer sucks ...

    But know, it's not him getting angry at everyone .. it's the cancer .. it can effect the brain and make placid people turn angry ... he must be in lots of pain right now ... so when your there and he gets irate .. keep in your mind the man he was before cancer .. my sister is in late stage dementure and she's turned from the most wonderful big sister who never lost her patience or swore .. to now telling us to just f off .. but it's not her either, it's the dementure ... both are crule when it speffects the brain ...

    So look for those times he's calmer .. then hold his hand and tell him your there ... even when he's sleeping he can hear you ... they say hearing is the last thing to go ... if you all can understand why he's like this, you can all hold each other up, and somehow get through ..

    Chrissie x

  • Heart crushing :( 

    All i can say is the time is NOW , not to.orrow not later but now.  Say everything you wanted to say anything you can think of, i was too scared and now it's too late , please be brave and be strong for him . Let him swear shout etc and then try to make him smile , reflect reflect reflect ! 

     cancer is vile and ruthless.  

    Huge love to you all