Hi there ...

First of all, deep breaths .... there's lots of us breast lasses on here.... and my son panicked like you at first ... but once you get those feelings out, hold her hand, and go with the flow ... take each day and try not to look to far ahead, or start doing the "what ifs" coz then it's overwhelming... take each problem as and when it comes up ... remember breast cancer treatment has come a long way ...

I had a masectomy in July 2017 ... and thought that was the end ... but once l took things, one step at a time, it's not easy, but it is doable.... your mum's got the right idea ... she sounds like she's ready to take cancer on ... think of any questions , you or mum have .. write them down, and take a pen and paper to write down dates, treatments, anything that's said .. I'm so glad my daughter in law came as it went right over my head ...

You know it's o.k to admit it's scary ... we all were .. but once everyone looks cancer in the eye, and gets their vertual boxing gloves on ... together wer knock it for 6 ... and I'm here after a grade 3 and nearly two years on, and doing o.k ... the stronger you all are, the more cancer doesn't like it .. it wants us to lay down and give up ... well it's got another thing comming ...

Chrissie x

Thank you so much for replying. 

Yes I think hearing the word sends anyone into panic, and I am very much a worrier anyway. However, like you said I just want to be practical and write things down for my mum so she's not worrying about everything as I'm sure she feels so overwhelmed... She didn't tell us till after she'd been to all of those appointments! 

Thanks for your reassurance and glad you are still fighting and doing okay! X

Hi Gratefulmum,

Thanks so much for your response! Yes I am just trying to be proactive. Good idea on getting appointment dates at the appointment - my mum is keen to start treatment ASAP

Hi,

I too am in the same position as you.  My Mum only told me once she'd been referred for a biopsy.  We are waiting for results from second biopsy to see what stage it is at.

I want to support my Mum every step of the way but I'm also very scared and I'm not sure how I'll cope when they tell her more results. That sounds so selfish but I'm just so scared. 

I wish you and your Mum the best of luck.

Hello

Sorry to hear about your Mum, I received my diagnosis on Thursday last week, the two weeks leading up to that day were difficult but once I knew what I was dealing with and was told the plan I can honestly say I felt a lot calmer.

My breast nurse was introduced to me after the biopsy and she was there when I got my results, I asked lots and lots of questions but still had a lot more when I got home.  My breast nurse gave me her email address and told me to email her about anything, which I did and she came back the same day.  Take a list of questions but don't panic if you don't remember everything, you can always ask questions as you go along.

The consultant said early stages and very treatable, that's what they said to me and I am hanging onto his every word.

Best of luck to your mum and to you.

x

London town - I could have written your reply myself! My mum didn't tell us till after the initial holiday appointment either. I have also been feeling guilty about being upset and scared when my mum seems to be dealing so well with it, although I have kept myself together in front of her. 

Ploppy - thanks for your reassuring words and I am sorry about your diagnosis. However, I am sure you and my mum will both come out fighting this horrible horrible disease. 

Good luck both x

Hi Chanteuse

How did your Mum get on? And how are you both coping?

My Mum's had her surgery now, not without its problems.  Just seems to be one thing after another each time we go to the appointments.

Hi there,

My mum has triple negative breast cancer. She is doing okay and is having chemo now leading to surgery further down the line.

Weirdly, she hasn't had any side effects from the chemo... She is due another round today so we'll see how it goes. 

How's your mum? Thanks for getting back in touch xx

Hey,

We are still waiting to hear when she will start her chemo and radiotherapy (which I believe comes afterwards).  She was diagnosed with stage 3 HER2 positive breast cancer.

I was so niave to all the different types of cancers and how they all affect treatment.

Hope you are both coping ok and your Mum is managing as best she can with the chemo.  I cant belive the emotional rollercoaster it is. xx

Thought I would provide an update!

My mum has now had her 7th weekly treatment and a consultation with the oncologist today shows the tumour has shrunk and also gone softer. He seemed really positive and I'm not ashamed to say I burst into tears at this news. 

We are all thrilled. She has 5 more weekley treatments then 4 3 weekly treatments, with surgery to follow - daring to hope it may have shrunk even further by her next oncologist appt late September. 

Hope you are all well and fighting xxx