Hiya, don't really know what to say but I just need some advice. I'm 21, my mother is 41 and in September of last year after a routine eye check we found out the following month that she had cancer. But not just cancer, she has terminal cancer..
The thought of her having cancer is scary but I wasn't too phased because she had been diagnosed with breast cancer in September of 2010, but hearing the words terminal cancer just shattered my heart. This comes as a shock to us and we are all still reeling from the death of my aunt, (her sister, she passed away in February 2014) it was also cancer so you can imagine how hard this has impacted us.
My emotions have been all over the place since my aunt passed, I took her death very very hard since we were so close, she was like a second mum to me and to know that my mum is suffering from the same thing is devastating. I just keep thinking about the effect it'll have on my little brother (he's only 9) and my grandma that's already watched one daughter be taken by this god awful illness. I'm sorry the post is so long but I just don't know how to cope, I struggle talking to my mum about it, I don't want her to see me cry, I know how heavy her heart is with everything going on, she's just thinking about how everyone else will cope, it's a very big weight on her shoulders, even if she hasn't said it outright.
Honestly, if it wasn't for my boyfriend I don't know how I'd get through some of my breakdowns, he has been my rock through a lot but I feel like I just need the advice of someone that is or has been in my position. So if anyone can just tell me how they coped or are coping in a similar sort of situation I'd be very grateful.
Mel x