Hi HazzA22 sorry for your predicament, all mums are a bit controlling  I doubt I ever saw eye to eye with my mum. Always treated as a child even when I had my own child. 

I always respected her opinion,  she was volatile too but when cancer struck she was weakened & frail. I wish I had moved into her home to help as when she last saw a hospital clinician  she had only 3 months of a poor existence left. I miss her she was my rock no one could ever replace her. Look for the good in mum.

Hi Pipestrill.

I'm so sorry to hear about your poor mum. It sounds like she was an extremely important lady in your life and im sure you miss her terribly. I understand that some mums can be a little controlling at times, but mine went beyond that, unfortunately. I suppose everyone has different relationships with their parents. Some love their parents to bits, while others don't speak to theirs. It depends what you're going through personally. 

Hi again, I think it's more age related, mum died 40 years ago. I am now older than she was at death, to explain My father worked away from home, & it was expected you did what mother expected. Its a generation thing. I would have nursed her, but do not expect that from my own 3 children. Best of luck pip