Hi Simster,

I have heard of this happening before and it can be very confusing for the patient. However, there is such a thing as “patient choice” and I expect this is what your mum’s doctor is trying to do. Are you going to your mum’s next appointment with her? It is always beneficial to have someone with you when seeing a Consultant. Sometimes they can ask questions which the patient has forgotten or pick up on answers that she has forgotten. Going for an appointment such as this is very stressful and we can only recall a portion of information after the appointment.

Why don’t you and your mum get together over the week end and draw up a list of questions? Bring this with you to your appointment – many of us find that we have to do this.

With regard to treatment, you can explain to the consultant that your mum has been trying to decide on the best option, but doesn’t have the medical knowledge to reach a decision. Explain that she just wants the best treatment for her and ask for his guidance.

I hope that your mum gets on better this time. Please come back and let us know how things go.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx