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Mum is newly diagnosed invasive ductal carcinoma

14 Feb 2021 18:08

Hi All 

mom hoping somebody here could offer some help or advice. My mum went for a screening about two weeks ago and they pretty much told her there and then that she had breast cancer that had spread to lymph nodes.

Just waiting to find out whether it's spread further and then we'll know the stage (at the moment it's either 3 or 4) but it is confirmed as grade 3. 

Now she's looking back she's reaslised she's had this lump for 'a few years'! I'd like her to be specific but I know she's now in shock and has a lot on her mind. It's not hormone responsive and we're awaiting the protein(?) results, so it could also be triple negative. 
 

They said she'll have chemotherapy, surgery, immunotherapy and radiology once all the tests are completed. Does anybody have any experience of surviving this in their 60s even though they've had it 'a few years'. 
 

She's also just told me today that she heard her rib 'crack' this morning when she was stretching. She's not in pain, just some discomfort. I know this can happen, but it's never happened to her before. Could this be a sign the cancer has spread? 
 

Thank you for taking the time to read or reply x

Mum is newly diagnosed invasive ductal carcinoma

14 Feb 2021 23:26 in response to Coffeeallday

Hi just wanted to pop on and say I'm sorry for your mums diagnosis. 

I'm 32 and have grade 3 IDC . Not sure if it's spread until after surgery. 

It is now a very treatable cancer and I'm sure there will be lots of people on here sharing their success stories. 

My aunty was 82 when diagnosed with BC and she's now 86 and in remission. 

Hope your mums treatment goes well.

Phili xx

Mum is newly diagnosed invasive ductal carcinoma

15 Feb 2021 07:22 in response to Phili1

Hi Phili1, thank you so much for taking the time to reply. I'm so sorry you're going through this too and I truly wish you are clear of this very soon. 

I can't tell you how much better your reply has made me feel. Especially what you shared about your auntie. I'm so pleased she's doing well now and selfishly I'm so pleased because when my mum tells me again she doesn't want treatment because she's 'too old' I have something to back up my claims of why she isn't. Thank you xxx

Mum is newly diagnosed invasive ductal carcinoma

22 Jul 2021 00:23 in response to Coffeeallday

Hello how is your mum doing any updates praying she is getting through fine.

Mum is newly diagnosed invasive ductal carcinoma

22 Jul 2021 00:24 in response to Coffeeallday

Please could you update on  your mum journey I truly hope she is okay xxx 

Mum is newly diagnosed invasive ductal carcinoma

22 Jul 2021 07:04 in response to maya0030303

Hi Maya

I hope you're very well. Thank you for asking about my mum. 
 

Sadlyy, she passed away one month later. Her treatment hadn't even begun. It was all very sudden and I'm devastated. My kids still miss her and were in tears again at bedtime but it's a cruel part of life and I can't change anything. 
 

Best wishes

Mum is newly diagnosed invasive ductal carcinoma

22 Jul 2021 22:33 in response to Coffeeallday

Hello, I am so sorry for your loss I can't even imagine how hard that must be. But such is life we all have to go one day as hard as it could be. I am sure your mother has raised beautiful children her legacy will live on... stay strong sending a big virtual hug. 

 

I wanted to ask what type of symptoms did your mum have.and what did they end up diagnosing her with. Was she healthy otherwise was there any symptoms other than a lump.

 

Thank you so much and once again I am so sorry for your loss as