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Mum is dying and has hours/days.

2 Dec 2019 23:32

I'm so sad that my beautiful brave Momma is dying.  She's in her final days and is now unresponsive.  The care we've been given is amazing but I'm so tired and sad. Its incredibly difficult to describe how lost I'm feeling.  I want her to be at peace now but she isn't letting go. Has anyone had this experience.  X

Mum is dying and has hours/days.

3 Dec 2019 10:03 in response to Lindz

Hi Lindz and welcome to Cancer Chat.

I just saw your post and wanted to let you know that hearing is the last sense to go so maybe you could hold your momma's hand and let her know you love her, that you'll be o.k and that when she feels ready, she can go.

Some of our members have found this has worked for them and I'm sure they will be along soon to offer their support and share their experiences with you.

We're all thinking of you at this difficult time.

Kind regards, 

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

Mum is dying and has hours/days.

3 Dec 2019 11:21 in response to Moderator Steph

Thank you, Momma died peacefully this morning with me and my sister holding her hands. Xxx

Mum is dying and has hours/days.

3 Dec 2019 12:57 in response to Lindz

so sorry for your loss  x x x

Mum is dying and has hours/days.

3 Dec 2019 14:09 in response to Lindz

I lost my dad to cancer last week. I've lived with him for 27 years and he was my best mate. I know how you're feeling, trust me ♥♥ lots of love.X

Mum is dying and has hours/days.

3 Dec 2019 14:51 in response to Lindz

I'm glad she had a peaceful passing Lindz and you and your sister were able to be with her at the end.

Sending kind thoughts and virtual hugs from our community to you both at this sad time.

Kind regards,

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

Mum is dying and has hours/days.

4 Dec 2019 12:09 in response to Lindz

Hi Lindz

so sorry to hear about your mum.  I have just gone through the same with my mum who died on 19/11/19.  I cared for her at home till the end.  I am devastated that she has gone but i am so grateful i was able to fulfil her wish to be at home before she passed.  

No words can make things easier during this time as i know.  You will need to look after yourself and take time to heal your broken heart.x

 

 

 

Mum is dying and has hours/days.

4 Dec 2019 12:14 in response to Moderator Steph

Hi my m-i-l was diagnosed 7 weeks ago with esophageal cancer (she is nearly 90) and no treatment will help, over the last couple of weeks she has deteriorated and is virtually bed bound except for toilet needs. 

On Monday she got really bad and having long pauses between breathes. As her carer I was concerned and called my husband (her son),  when he arrived she took his hand and told him to look after everyone else. My husband stayed the night with her and she made it through the night. It's now Wednesday shes still with us but is very confused and not recognizing us, she says things that dont makes sense and see things that aren't there, her breathing is shallow and she sometimes struggles for breathe. We know it's nearly over and it could happen any time, but the waiting game is so cruel, I'm just trying to keep her comfortable and out of pain, I sit at the side of her bed holding her hand, on the odd occasion that she wakes i talk to her the best i can. 

So much praise to anyone who has had to deal with cancer whether you're a victim a survivor a family or carer. ♡♡