Oh I am sorry to read this, I don't have any experience in this area but my mum did have copd, although she was very brave  indeed with all her health issues.

you mum sounds like she is craving attention....was she always like this? What's her prognosis? 

I suppose we all deal with things in different ways....but she's your mum and needs you now more than ever, she is crying out for attention bless her.....

i wish you luck and patience .....xx

Dear Sally, I'm sorry you're struggling with Mum's cancer, it does sound as if she is seeking attention because she's behaving like this outside the home.  To carry on smoking is devastating and must make you angry, I know you love her but some home truths would not go amiss! Is she receiving her DWP cancer allowance?  Perhaps you could get a cleaner in to help her, or go for some care assistance.  Sometimes the more you give the more they take.  She is being selfish by making herself worse by still smoking, you are all fretting about her but her input is very little.  I just want you to know my husband has lung cancer and copd and if he'd carried on smoking my boot would have been up his bum!!  Let us know how it goes.  Best wishes Carol 

I know it's late but I've been awake since my dad phoned me at 5.30am,to tell me I need to get over as quickly as possible.... Not knowing what to expect!

I raced over thinking *** is this the end, this can't be.. We have so much to talk about and this doesn't happen this quck!!! 

Luckily she was still there, ,  once I arrived but its been touch and go since then, I've read so many stories online since mam's diagnosis and have felt so guilty reading stories from years back which obviously I haven't read until now.

You read others stories to see if it can help you which I understand is selfish, or you read a story about a loved one until you think yes I'll read that one! Deep down you know this is  going to happen - but you so want it not to. 

My mam had the dreaded C word 30years ago for the first time when I was 11,this soon makes you grow up and become a tough cookie which obviously I don't want to be. Mam was great until October 2018 then diagnosed with bladder cancer, it broke us completely as a family, she's the mama, the ruler, the boss..... 

Operation success, phew....... 

Mam great, now she's a great gran, she's so excited, so happy loads of energy. My mam wants a holiday and a holiday abroad, I say don't you worry you'll get one, look at so many insurance companies and say we will definitely get you insurance, March she is due her scan, she's so fit full of energy this is definitely going to go well..

. No, I'm sorry your cancer has spread to lungs, liver and bones.......

My parents are so proud they wouldn't tell me and my sister how bad it was, remember I'm 44.and she still can't tell me how bad it is. 

Anyway tonight I'm sitting with my extremely poorly mam who may not see the night through with my daughters wondering if she'll be here tomorrow, I've kissed her, told her her how much we all love her and how much she means to us. 

I believe she can hear everything we are saying to her and hopefully this is helping. My lovely mam had no medication until last Friday and she in her last days on being here! Shess a tough buggar who is loved by everyone who knows her.

I'm feeling I have to be strong because of the kids but deep down I wana scream the housedown? 

This lady is so strong she's a wonder woman! 

Sorry for the rant, I just have to be strong for everybody here.... 

Gx

My man has lung cancer and copd all so dimension  I stay with her 2 a week and cares go in during the day am doing this because she my mam I don't get paid just to save other cares  eny way my point is can I still do this with this various