Hi All 

we've just found out that my mum has cancer. I've spent the last 8 months in the U.K. due to COVID but just returned back home overseas 

my mum is on her own , my step father has advanced Parkinson's and she lives alone as he is in a home . I have siblings but they have not even been to see my mum and she's having to ask friends to take her to an appointment 

I want to go home , but due to various complicated issues if I leave here again it'll be for good and would have to leave my job. My mum says she doesn't want me to give up my job for her but I just want to be there to support her , I can see she is scared and lonely.  But she's arguing with me about it , she's being my mum and wanting something for me , but I just want to be there for her 
 

I just wondered from everyone's perspective here , how you would all feel in that situation ? I don't want to cause her more guilt or worries (even if if misplaced , all she has done is say sorry since she found out :( )