Hello,
I have been ready posts on here ever since my mum was diagnosed with cancer end of last year, and since she passed away 2 weeks ago.
I have so many feelings going around my head so wanted to write some of them down here. And just a warning, I think this is going to be a long one, so, sorry.
When my mum passed away, my dad was with her, but I only found out that death was iminant once she passed away. I knew they had stopped the chemo and therefore it was going to happen at some point but they had predicted she had at least a few months but in reality it only turned out to be a few weeks. He had the call in the morning that is was likely and she died at 6.30pm. Is it wrong that I can't help but feel angry that he didn't tell anyone? I live about 2.5 hours away from where she was and I could have made it back to say goodbye but I wasn't given the chance. I know that he didn't do it to be spiteful but because I covid I hadn't seen her since about November time and I would have like the opportunity to say goodbye... and its not something I feel that I can talk about with my dad or anyone really, apart from maybe my partner.
That's the first thing, the second is we are trying to write a eulogy. We decided that we would all contribute to it and edit it together to make one, but I can't think of anything to say. I loved my mum so much she was my best friend, but I have no motivation to write anything. It all seems fake like we're writing some strange essay about her. But if everyone else is contributing then how can I not?
Lastly, I feel heartbroken and lonely without her. I'm only in my late 20's and feel like I've been robbed or a future with my mum. I am enagaed, but didn't have a chance to get married because if of covid between her diagnosis and death, we are trying for a baby but didn't manage to get pregnant. And I now feel like what's the point of these things if I won't get to share it with my mum. I have lots of other family and I love my partner dearly, and I am sure a lot of this is just due to it being so recent, but it's like everything had lost the excitement factor.
Hopefully some of your have been through similar things and can offer some advice.
Thank you x