Hi, me too, mum and dad visited on Saturday, to tell me that mum has stage 1, like your mum she has to have surgery and then radiotherapy. She being very positive, so im trying to be as normal as possible but am still in denial I suppose really. Mum's 72, fit and healthy but is the gel that holds us altogether, worried about dad coping too. Just thought you may get some comfort in knowing your not alone.x

Thank you so much for replying. I'm so sorry about your Mum. I totally understand you're in shock, me too. You're def not alone. My Mum is the same, head of the family. I just worry my kids won't know her, breaks my heart. Much love to you. Xxx

Hi JOBGSMREM,

Firstly I am very sorry to hear about your mum.  I may be of little help, but I just wanted to say that your thoughts aren't selfish at all - when something like this happens it's only natural to think what will I ever do without them.  My mum had cancer 15 years ago and survived and is fine now, but my dad has recently been diagnosed with terminal stomach cancer.  It is awful and such a difficult thing to process.  Try to take comfort in the many success stories you have heard if you at all can - I too know of many who have survived, but it is so different when it is happening to your own family.

The only advice I have is try to stay strong for your mum, but also don't feel like you have to hide your feelings, it's important for you to have someone to talk to about it too.  Take each day at a time and as strange as it is, the more time goes by and the more you find out, it starts to sink in and you start to be able to process and begin to deal with it.

I wish you and your mum all the best xx