Hi,
Mother has been in and out of hosipital lately. She was diagnosed last June(2020) with cervical cancer metastised to lung and adrenal gland,after two years in pain and 75 visits to the hospital all symptoms related.She even had a biopsy done in 2019 which came back negative, to have another one in 2020 and be told that it is positive and she has cervical cancer HPV 18.She has been on chemo for 6 months,despite being very sick from it, and in November all her pains stopped and her urinary bag removed and she could finally walk again.That only lasted for a month as her bladder pain came back in December ,along with really bad stomach pain. That intensified and in February she lost her ability to talk normal as she was confusing and forgetting words and could not type anymore.The Ct scan showed the cancer had spread to the brain which was causing her communication issues as well as coordination issues - 8 mets biggest more than 3 cms.
She has done palliative brain radio for 5 days and steroids for a month and she then recovered to her normal self.That did not last long as she got into the hospital due to bladder blockage.They had to do an incision and put a urinary bag through the stomach as the tumour was blocking the bladder. A new scan showed the tumour grew into her bladder and even colon which caused her extreme pain, as well as grew bigger in lungs.
3 weeks ago she was told they could no longer offer her treatment, just a 5 days palliative radiotherapy on cervix.She kind of rejected the idea she is dying and was still hoping that after radio she will feel better.One week later she got worse and started vomiting before even starting radio.She could not stop so we took her to the emergencies.
She has been there since then,has done the radio as well but the vomiting is still an issue even with anti emetics and steroids.Doctors tried to tell her yesterday that they will put her into an hospice as she is getting worse,but she got into a denial stage. I was also told in private that she has more than 2 3 weeks but she will not get to 3 months and that we need to get her to acknowladge that.We also tried to tell her after and she is just rejecting the idea and keeps asking how long she will need to stay in the hospice.It breaks my heart that she does not understand where she stands or that it does but will still deny it.She still talks about going for walks when she feels better.She also is extremely sick and nothing stops her from throwing up.
I am lost as she is my best friend and we used to talk for 2 hours every day when I was returning home from work.She knows absolutely everything, no one knows all my secrets as she does.She is also my only family - I don;t get along with my father as he treated her badly in their relationship and there is no one else I have.I know I will miss her terribly but what hurts me more now is seeing her struggle and also denying what is happening to her and I do not know what the tell or do for her. I am also terrified of how it will end, I feel like I cannot pull this through. Everything happened so quick,it feels.And also I am angry at the doctors for not finding it sooner.
Thank you
Diana