Mortgage woes

I was wondering if anyone could help, I have stage 4 multiple myeloma and have had just about every treatment more than once! I was given 6months in 2016 and being self employed with 2 teenage children was probably the best possible  motivation for giving it my absolute all. Over time, the ability to press on has slowed and the difficulty in daily tasks has increased and the effects from the treatment have become difficult to maintain and control. I take 20 dexamethazone twice per week and it creates a huge problem in some cases as I have little control over my emotions and outbursts, so much so that my partner has decided to move out of the house we own and has secured another property. She says she's terribly sorry but is also no longer able to attend appointments or treatments with me. She has decided to leave and now wants me to sell the house to assume her 50%. Given that my life expectancy is limited and becoming more of a reality, would my condition have any effect on stopping her from forcing a sale? Both girls are now over 18 but have elected to stay at home with me as long as possible 

  • Hi Daniel

    This  is rotten at anytime never mind when you are ill.
    I have a chum whose marriage went haywire while she had a cancer diagnosis a few years ago.

    I know she got advice from the Citizens Advice Bureau and the local council with a welfare rights officer advising her.

    I hope this helps you.

  • I forgot to add the MacMillan nurse website has an 0800 number you can call for financial advice 

  • Hi Daniel, have you been claiming the money each month that you are allowed when diagnosed with cancer.  If not ask your McMillan nurse about it.  I think you need professional advice, some solicitors will give you a fifteen minute appointment free of charge, so call a solicitor as soon as possible.  Good luck.  Carol 

  • Hi Carol, I took your advice and contacted a solicitor, we had always enjoyed a very comfortable lifestyle as I ran my own consultancy company and therefore didn't feel comfortable in claiming anything as I felt like it would not be fair to those who were not as privileged as ourselves. My partner was able to be a stay at home mother and we were very pleased to be in that position. Things are no longer that way and I have not been able to work for a long period and as a result of my partners demands I have been forced to sell lots of our shared assets and possessions and I have had to sell my own assets that I had previously and it is still not enough to satisfy her demands. After dealing with the solicitor, she has now decided to also look at my pension fund and its sadly destroying what little life I have left. I provided everything I could for her but I now feel like she may as well have everything as I just don't have the energy or motivation to want to fight over possessions. I never had a McMillan nurse and never thought I'd be in this situation but never mind, unless I can avoid the sale as a result of a compassionate judge, I'm set to lose the home but I do remain thankful for those like yourself who have given me hope and support and ultimately I'm glad that they remain just things. Friends and loved ones who are not so materialistic have been incredibly helpful and supportive and those who give advice like you have done remain the most important people that I could have the privilege to have encountered. Thanks again for your advice and support. Please keep helping out those like myself.