Moms just been diagnosed

my mom had just been diagnosed with staged 4 lung cancer has spread to her liver and nodes and intestines , she was perfectly healthy about 8 weeks ago until she kept going to the doctors with chest infections and they thought she had acid , my antie told her to go to walk in centre and she ended up in hospital the same day finding out she had cancer . I'm only 22 and seeing my mom so unwell is heartbreaking , I'm doing 9 hour shifts at work then coming straight to the hospital till visiting time is over, as I want to be with my mom everyday as she is my rock she's still trying to be positive but now she can hardly walk far swallow up legs and belly and struggles breathing which is a shock considering 2 months ago she was fit and healthy , still waiting to see if they can do anything treatment wise after 3 weeks , seeing my mom like a firale old lady is breaking my heart she keeps saying sorry for falling asleep and being the way she is but she can't help it . I'm struggling to stay strong for my mom when all I wanna do is take away the vile pain from her she is only64 and retired last year .im abousltly broken 

  • Hi there Zoe ... so so sorry to hear of your mum's diagnosis ... your probably in a bit of shock at the moment... and your brain must be full of what ifs ... I'm 63 and got brest cancer and I know my son, like you was in panic mode at first  ... but now we just make the most of each day ... try and find some strength to make every day a memory... hold her hand , lots of hugs , and ask her if there's anything she still wants to do ... do things with her she likes to do ... 

    This cancer wants to beat us down and it has no compassion, it wants us to just give up ... don't let it do that to you .. every time you make a loving memory you will be putting two fingers up to it ... 

    A couple of weeks ago my son and my 5 year old grand daughter went to the coast and my son put my old 70s music on in the car, and as even my granddaughter knew some of the songs, we did a carpool karaoke... none of us has a good voice ... but we giggled all the way ... that is what keeps me going ... 

    You will have good days and sad ones, it's all part of this journey we find our self's on ... but walking this road with someone holding your hand, means so much ...so sending you a big hug ... hold on ... chrisie xx

  • Hi zoe

    So sorry to hear about your mum.

    my dad has been diagnosed with lung cancer, they can’t cure it, but can treat it, my mum and I are totally devastated, I know exactly how you are feeling, it’s so very difficult to try to cope, we only found out on Tuesday and I am struggling to get up in the mornings, sending you all my thoughts, you are not alone, keep strong 

    shaz xx