Hi there ...

I can understand how you feel ... the thought of another woman being a "mum" to our babies feels wrong because we gave birth to them .. how could someone else love them like we do ..

But the alternative is a life of growing up with no lady in their life is even harder .. and I've followed his story ... and the lass he's with, adores them .. and they talk about their mum all the time ... to love someone enough to want them to find love after wer gone is the greatest love there is ...

I think every life is like a book ... and when we pass, another chapter has to begin ... it doesn't take anything away from the chapter you have right now .. he can go back and remember that chapter with love ... and it will always be a part of his life ... but time means having to move on ... 

I have cancer too ... and my kids are grown ... but if they were younger I'd pray someone would come along to hold them when they cry .. to wipe away those tears, and to tell them, their mum will live in their hearts forever, and no one can take that away .. 

Telling them it's o.k to move on after, is the greatest gift ... yet they may not want to hear that right now .. we don't leave, we live tucked up in their hearts forever .. 

Chrissie