Metastatic Kidney Cancer

Hi Folks

Newbie here.  Thought I would start a post, to charter my journey, perhaps. . . . .  

First meeting with my Urologist today after an abnormal abdominal US and a subsequent CT scan.  The "thing" on my left kidney is cancer and has spread to my lungs.  My urologist is referring me to an Oncologist and getting a biopsy.  Both in around 4-6 weeks time.  Management is the objective.  

I read the room as each diagnostic piece was slowly delivered over the last three months, so I went into the appt prepared.   Although I did think it may be contained within the kidney so I might "just" looking at a nephrectomy perhaps.  I don't feel ill and I have no symptoms.      

It all began with a cough I couldn't shift for four months (not covid!) and lots of tests at the GP.  Rubbish liver function results then lead to the US referral.  An incidental finding I think they call it.  

I am not afraid to die, but no black clothes at my funeral please, else you won't be allowed in!  I am just sad that I may be unlikely to experience my children's epic milestones, like graduating, starting work, and settling down.  They are 17 and 20.  Hubby a bit shocked.    

But who knows.  Maybe we can press the pause button on this disease and I will get to go to the party. 

I am 52, female.    Oh and I really feel like "sod work" right now.  It's really not important, is it?!