Hello Caf4,

Thank you for posting.  I see from your post that you are worried about some symptoms you have.  The best thing to do is to go and see your doctor about these problems.  When you are worried that you may have cancer, it can be tempting to look for answers on an online forum, but this can end up increasing anxiety rather than making you feel better.  And the only person that can diagnose you is your doctor.  

I hope this is helpful.

Best wishes,

Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hi Caf, 

i felt exactly same same as you. I had signs of melanoma and I had went to the doctor in November. The doctors reaction scared me and red flagged me for a dermatologist. I didn’t get a dermatologist alappointment until 2nd January. I felt so lost and I’m a 30 year old male. I felt this way because, I just became a father and and it killed me to look at my son and think the worst. I couldn’t talk much about it to my partner as I didn’t want to worry her. My family said the same thing ,you will be ok it isn’t it. It played so much on my mind it put a real dampener over Christmas, especially my son’s first christmas. All I could think is how many Christmases will I be here for him. I didn’t get my biopsy until 4th February, in which by that time I was worried out I didn’t think about it. I said to myself I ruined Christmas etc with my worry and to stop and take charge of it. Even after getting my nail removed and waited 3 weeks for results, I still didn’t think about it or worry. But on the day if my results. All the worry came back about 2 minutes right before my name was called in the waiting room. The night before I slept like a baby and partner didn’t with worry. I even worked from home the day of my appointment and drove me and my partner and our son an hour to get the results. I wasn’t worried until it hit me in the waiting room again. 

Well the results thankfully came back clear. I said to myself the mental torture it had caused was crazy, and it really is hard to control when you have a health scare. 

I literally just just joined the form tonight to give my story and to help others mentally who are going through health scares.

Stay strong, embrace it, life isn’t always plain sailing, there is always a few rocky waves. But it is down to you how you see and look at things. Stay positive and your mind focused cause worrying doesn’t do any favours.

Regards

Ciaran

Thank you for sharing your experiences with me and taking the time to respond. Your right the mental anguish is hard to deal with, whilst still carrying on with a job and family. My children are now in their early 2o's and I have cried many private tears thinking I may not see them or be there to help through other milestones in their lives. I should get the results come through by the end of the week and am trying to be strong. So glad your results were good, enjoy every moment you can with your son, life is too short to worry about the small stuff.