Mam dying

My mam was diagnosed on the 5th of July with stage four lung cancer she's 84yrs old. I'm 42 . She's in total denial but does know she's dying she's in a hospice the last week. I'm lost devastated I can't concentrate in work.My dad is at at home dying slowly from strokes he's no idea what's going on. I've a wonderful husband for help.But I'm confused and lost. I'm not ready for her to leave me. She's still strong.Fighting it. I know it's a great age but she's my mam. Her death will kill my father. And my nephew was sectioned for self harm over it. 

  • I’m so sorry to hear this. I can honestly say I know how you feel. I’m in my fifties now and I still remember how I felt (and still feel) on losing my mam when I was 14. No matter what age you are, losing your mam is so very hard to accept. I’d love to tell you that you’ll get over it in time but that wouldn’t be truthful. You will find it easier to accept in time though and the good memories, like cream, will rise to the top for you. In the meantime enjoy spending time with her and I hope you’re not too sad. My thoughts and prayers are with you. X

  • I lost my mum yesterday, we both thought she was getting better and she couldn't accept she was dying, she was my best friend, just be with her, I too am lost, I lived with her and we did everything together she was my best friend, worst thing was it wasn't the cancer that killed her it was the chemo