My mam has been diagnosed with Stage 4 Lung Cancer, it has spread to mediastinal lymph nodes (cluster of tumours), it's also in her supraclavical and a number of nodes in her neck and in muscle behind her right ear. She has lost loads of weight and is well under 7st and has caxchia I think that's what it is as she looks like she's lost lots of muscle all over her body and is looking (anorexic). She is still eating but the consultant has said she isn't strong enough for treatment.
she had a PET scan, MRI of brain and CT scan. The consultant won't do a biopsy as he said it's not worth putting your mam through it to get a confirmed diagnosis as he has seen how much she has deteriorated in last 3 weeks.
he offered that she could be cared for when the time comes at home or he would bring her into hospital. She chose the latter. I haven't seen anyone go through this as when my dad had Mesothelioma I didn't see him waste away so to speak.
My mam has said she has discomfort in her legs/hip but I'm not sure whether it is where she's lost muscle and she is sitting on bone. If that makes sense.
Does anyone have any idea what I am looking at in relation to life expectancy as I want to be able to get my mam out and about to do things before she becomes bed ridden.
she is weak on her legs, can still walk about but is frail. I am waiting for a wheelchair where I can take her out.
I feel totally lost and wake up some days with a heavy heart and upset and feel selfish that I am not being strong enough. It is just me to look after her and at moment I am going down during day for a few hours and then back again later on the day for a few hours. I still have a children of school age to look after but I am trying to juggle and my mam and I don't want carers in. I will move in when things deteriorate more.
I just don't know what to expect.
thank you x
