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Lost my Mum on Sunday to Metastatic Breast Cancer

MollyG
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[[ ]]Hi, I feel a little numb at the moment, on Sunday the 3rd of December I lost my wonderful, amazing mum to Breast cancer.

she had a mastectomy this time last year and was given the all clear. In October we were told it had spread to her lungs. It then spread to her brain and bones. The last few weeks I’ve seen the deterioration and that has probably helped in understanding that there was no other way out, and that she is now pain free. We were all with her when she died, the last hour was quite traumatising and I wish I’d been prepared for it. I still have nightmares of her final moments now.  

Im not sure if I’m still in complete shock, acceptance or denial. I feel okay but then at times have little panic attacks. Our family is so close and wonderful but I’m so angry that it’s taken my mummy. 

 

Has as anyone got any advice? I think I need reassurance that things will be okay, and that the pain will get easier.

 

thank you.

 

molly 

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    Hi Molly, so sorry to hear this news

    I lost my beautiful mum in Feb this year to Metastatic BC, so I know how you are feeling. If you ever want to talk feel free to message me.

    That is such a beautiful pic of you and your mum, who looks far too young to have been taken from this dreadful disease (my mum was a similar age too)

    I just wanted to let you know that you’re not alone and unfortunely there are many of us in this horrible club who have lost our mums at a young age and have been robbed of at least 20-30 years that we should have had.

     

    Thinking of you and please do message me if you ever want to talk x

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    Oh my hunny ... there's not much pain more raw, then when we loose our wonderfull mum's... what a beautiful picture, of you both ... you look so very much like her, she will be right there staring back at you in the mirror... as long as we carry them with us in our hearts, well carry them forever ... 

    This pain we feel at first is the price we have to pay, for loving them so so much ... there's no easy way through ... we just miss them so much ... when I lost my mum, I couldn't understand why the world didn't stop ... why did other people, laugh, chat and carry on... it all seems so unfare ...it's letting your self have those feelings, they are all part of it ... so be kind to your heart, and I bet she's one proud mummy ...

    I so wish we had a magic wand sometimes... but sending you a caring hug,  chrisie  xx  

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    Hi molly. 

    What a beautiful picture of your and your mum.

    im so sorry to read your story about your mum passing away, I have just joined this site tonight and I have posted about my story too, I lost my mum just over 3 weeks ago to metastatic breast cancer, she was diagnosed 2.5 years ago that spread to her bones, which was controlled with hormone treatment for over a year, then sadly spread this year to her liver and esophegus. 

     like yourself I'm  finding it so difficult to cope at the minute, I have better days but have really bad ones too!

    i have a 8 month old baby keeping me busy but I just feel so sad, as I spent all my time with my mum, she really was my best friend.

    its also heartbreaking for me that she won't see him grow up, she adored him so very much as he was a ivf miracle for the family.

    people say times a healer but it doesn't feel like it will ever get better, although we are bound to think like this at the minute it's still so very raw! 

    Im here if you also need a chat. Sending you a big hug 

    lisa x

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