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29 Jan 2018 15:35

I lost my beautiful mum aged 84 to Lung Cancer last week. Mum was diagnosed in Oct 2017 and died on the 23rd January. I am missing her so much and can't believe I will never see or speak to her again. I have always lived with my mum and have never gone a day withoiut speaking to her.  I gave up work a few years ago for health reasons and to look after her so feel so lost and lonley. I have great friends that are here for me but its just not the same... 



29 Jan 2018 19:03 in response to Griffo

I'm so sorry to hear about your mum, Griffo.

On behalf of everyone here at Cancer Chat I offer you our healtfelt condolences.

Thinking of you at this difficult time.

Best wishes,

Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator


29 Jan 2018 19:44 in response to Griffo

Hello Jan/Griffo.  I am sorry you have lost your mum.  As you have always lived with your mum I realise that you must feel bereft.  I hope there are other family members around to support you and that you are not totally on your own to cope with this.  Also that the friends you mention will be a help to you  Just be kind to yourself and take one day at a time.  Many people posting on this forum have lost their beloved parents and feel for you at this time.  I hope you will continue to post here if it helps you to talk about how you are feeling.  It feels unbearable at the moment  I know so don't bottle it up inside yourself.


3 Feb 2018 17:04 in response to Griffo


Hi Griffo,

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your mum and offer my sincere sympathy. I lost my own mum to metastases from breast cancer twenty years ago and I still miss her every day. She had it for 12 years and, in her final year it had spread to her bones, brain, liver and lungs.

Sadly, it doesn’t sound as if you have had much time to come to terms with her cancer diagnosis if this was only in October 2017. The only advice I can give to you is to take each day as it comes. There were times when I had to take things hour by hour to start with and you probably will too. Gradually you will come to terms with this. You will always miss her, but, in time you will be able to accept her passing and think fondly of the things that you’ve done together.

Don’t lose contact with your friends. Try to keep in contact with them, as they will help you to get back to a more normal routine.  Don’t be afraid to talk about your mum and don’t worry about crying, as this is a good release valve.

We are always here whenever you want to chat or need support.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx


8 Feb 2018 06:07 in response to Griffo

Hi Griffo,

I am so very sorry for your loss. My Mum passed away last October from lung cancer that had spread to her brain. Devastating. She has left a huge gap in my life and I miss her every day. It has been a rollercoaster but I try to take one day at a time.  I'm here if you want to talk.

Sending you lots of hugs.