Hi there,
I was wondering if someone can help me with my stress due to the loss of my parents.
When I was only 8 years old my mother was diagnosed with bowel cancer and it had gotten quite severe as we had not noticed the signs. After getting told she had only a few weeks to live, she lived another 4 years were cancer was a part of our lives but we took it on our stride! Sadly the chemo stopped working and she quickly deteriorated within 1 month until she passed. I had a hard time coping through that but I bottled it up as my dad became depressed and my eldest sister has slight learning difficulties.
Roughly 9 years later my dad sadly got dealt with the same fate instead it was in his stomach! My dad was a very proud man and seen this as a challenge! He lasted 1 year and 1 month before he sadly passed a month ago very suddenly!
I’m now struggling to cope as a 22 year old who has the responsibility of my sister and also my dad had a lot of unfinished business to do with his house as we all thought he would have more time! I have tried to keep my anxiety about this situation bottled up for my sisters sake but I’m so stressed and scared as I don’t know what I’m doing or how to go about it! I feel pressure of other family members telling me that it is my responsibility to help my sister out and sort my dads estate issues but she isn’t as incapable as they make her out to be and I feel like I don’t have time to grieve over the lose of my dad while I’m stressing over how I’m going to sort out his affairs! I was just wondering if anyone had any ideas how to deal with the stress of the aftermath of loss!
Thank you so much for reading x
