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Living without my wife

8 Sep 2019 11:47

Lost my lovely wife to cancer it happened so quick it’s knocked me and family for six 

Living without my wife

8 Sep 2019 16:43 in response to candie11

So sorry i had the same its like being robbed i cant say other than sorry but keep coming on talking it realy helps sometimes that your not alone .paul

Living without my wife

8 Sep 2019 16:46 in response to Paulus

Thank u it does help 

Living without my wife

8 Sep 2019 18:29 in response to candie11

It's a good place to rant and rave if you want as most here are going through the same thing

Living without my wife

8 Sep 2019 18:41 in response to Newb

Thanks  

Living without my wife

8 Sep 2019 18:43 in response to Paulus

Thanks it does help just at such a loss but this does help exspressing my feelings

Living without my wife

8 Sep 2019 18:45 in response to Newb

Thank u 

Living without my wife

8 Sep 2019 18:47 in response to candie11

I lost my wife in June it's a hard road that we have to go down and all the help you can get hope this site will help Macmillans site is a good one also

Living without my wife

8 Sep 2019 18:50 in response to Newb

Thank u it is helping just good to relay how ime feeling  justvtaking one day at a time thanks

Living without my wife

8 Sep 2019 18:55 in response to Newb

By far the hardest time of my life having lost both my parents this just feels so different hard to explain  ime only 54 my wife was 62.

Living without my wife

8 Sep 2019 19:19 in response to Newb

Yes its agony its its  over 12 months for me and its been a nightmare i found counciling helped joined bereavement group it wasnt run very well so stopped that if you havnt give local hospice ask to spk to cheif bereavement counciler i went for months they dont seem to have a limit just that hour a week realy helped you can rant blub you name it and they dont try to change the subject or ignore it if you mention your partner as the world goes back to normal we dont so you see it hurts like heck at begining you have to stick at it but whatever you think now it does get eisier but its a hard lonley road keep coming on i was on mcmillan site this is not as big but i like it theres thme lovely understanding people and the moderaters you just have to keep talking we i understand your agony its like our life ends with there last breath but unfortunatly for us it dosnt so we have to make a new life doant mean you cant take your wife along with you anyway i dont beleive all that love just blinks out of existence its there we just are not ment to see it theres more in this world we will ever understand or are ment to .paul

Living without my wife

8 Sep 2019 19:20 in response to candie11

I have lost both my parents and also my son but this is the most painfull can't seem to pull out of it in tears most of the time

Living without my wife

8 Sep 2019 19:27 in response to candie11

Hi yes your right anything that helps this rotton pain is worth it glad you come on you learn a great deal about loss grief the dredded guilt we all seem to get for no reason but it comes its because we have no one to blame other than cancer so our brains go wierd and we then blame ourselves its crazy but you eventualy work it out .paul

Living without my wife

8 Sep 2019 19:27 in response to Paulus

It’s still so raw don’t really no what to say can’t believe I find myself in this position i feel so guilty I couldn’t do more for my wife I no ime not on my own but I feel so helpless it’s no me I feel sorry for it’s my wife she was to young and we had so many plans 

Living without my wife

8 Sep 2019 19:29 in response to Newb

I totally understand I been in same situation this feels so different